INSPIRATIONALBeing Nice is What Matters Most

Maureen SantosFebruary 12, 20195045 min

You might have found the answer to having a happy relationship once you’ve found someone nice. 

They say, that first impression lasts. Besides, many people believe that two persons will get along better if they share the same personalities. However, according to new research, that might no longer be the case anymore.

Bill Chopik said, “People invest a lot in finding someone who’s compatible, but our research says that may not be the end all be all. “Instead, people may want to ask, ‘Are they a nice person?’ ‘Do they have a lot of anxiety?’ Those things matter way more than the fact that two people are introverts and end up together.”

Chopik is an associate professor of psychology and director of Michigan State University’s Close Relationships Lab. Their most remarkable discovery of the research was having the same personalities nearly has no impact on the people’s satisfaction in their lives and relationships.

He suggested that dating apps that match people regarding compatibility might have it all wrong. Chopik further added that people don’t know why the heart determines what it does. But with their research, compatibility can be eliminated as the only factor.

Chopik, along with psychology department professor Richard Lucas, studied the impact of personality characteristics on well-being in over 2,500 heterosexual husbands and wives who have been married for about two decades. Their research is published in the Journal of Research in Personality.

The research revealed that although the couples share exact personalities, having an honest and nice significant other results in a higher level of relationship satisfaction. On the other hand, an irrational and more unreserved partner leads to relationship satisfaction.

When you truly love someone, that person becomes your world. You place his or her well-being above you even if it means you need to sacrifice.

A separate study conducted in the UC Santa Barbara in California emphasizes on the way a person’s genetics and brain activity associated with selfless behaviors influenced over romantic partners. The researchers recognized that courses linked to affection in other animals unfolded in humans and could have involved more generally in unselfishness. published in the journal Behavioral Neuroscience.

According to Bianca Acevedo, it makes sense that people will specifically prioritize the well-being of their partners because they want to share with them a healthy, and happy relationship for the rest of their lives. For the newlyweds, a few of them might want to have kids. Being unselfish towards their partner would be a sacrifice in their children.

Acevedo is a UC Santa Barbara’s Neuroscience Research Institute and the lead author of the study published in the journal Behavioral Neuroscience. She added that acknowledging a child in a selfless way is a vital piece of caregiving.

Researchers right now believe that selflessness developed in social species as a way for guaranteeing the survival of the relatives. The notion is that genes that boost selflessness will continue. It may not be through a person’s offsprings but with their lineage who posses the same genetics.


Maureen Santos

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