The article also included important commentary by Irene van der Zande, the co-founder of Kidpower, an organization that offers tons of resources for youth about personal safety and violence prevention.
“When we force children to submit to unwanted affection in order not to offend a relative or hurt a friend’s feelings, we teach them that their bodies do not really belong to them because they have to push aside their own feelings about what feels right to them,” van der Zande said.
Hetter’s article quickly went viral, sparking an important discussion from parents everywhere.
On Oct. 6, 2016, the Facebook page Safe kids, thriving families reminded everyone of this article by sharing this meme. It was shared over 51,000 times. Later, A Mighty Girl shared the story, too, and over 165,000 people shared it there.
It features a photo of a little girl with a message that reads:
“I Am 5.
My body is my body.
Don’t force me to kiss or hug.
I am learning about consent and your support on this will help me keep myself safe for the rest of my life.”
The reactions to the post were both surprising and incredibly insightful.
People talked about why it may be crucial that we stop and think before making our child kiss or hug someone who’s unfamiliar to them.
Some were able to relate:
Others thought this cautious approach was perhaps unnecessary:
But overall, they agreed on one thing: The topic was surprising and something we should all think about.
Many of us were likely conditioned to show physical affection to people we hardly knew (including relatives) by either planting an innocent kiss on their cheek or hugging them tightly with false enthusiasm. But should we be teaching our kids to do that, too?
Hetter brings up an important point with her story: Kids need to understand what consent means, and the earlier they grasp that concept the better.
It’s imperative children learn to trust their instincts and say “no” when something doesn’t feel right to them.
She lets everyone become aware of what is happening to our beloved planet Earth and its inhabitants. She can take you beyond the space and find out how neighbor planets are doing. Moreover, she would open your eyes to the things what makes the Earth suffer including the living species and allow you to decide what you can do to help save the planet and the future generation.